Books and Resources

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Stop Overthinking: 23 Techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter Your Mind, and Focus on the Present (The Path to Calm) by Nick Trenton

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Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind by Judson Brewer

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Rewire Your Anxious Brain: How to Use Neuroscience of Fear to End Anxiety, Panic, and Worry by Catherine M. Pittman, PhD

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Don't Believe Everything You Think: Why Your Thinking is the Beginning & End of Suffering (Beyond Suffering) by Joseph Nguyen 

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The Answer to Anxiety: How to Break Free From  the Tyranny of Anxious Thoughts and Worry by Joyce Meyer

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Anxious for Nothing: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World  by Max Lucado 

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Stop Overthinking: The Ultimate Guide to Eliminate Excessive Thinking. Practical Techniques and Small Habits to Alleviate Anxiety, Remove Thoughts, and Achieve Peace by Philip Gibson

DBT Skills Workbook for Teens: A Fun Therapy Guide to Manage Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, OCD, Trauma, and Eating Disorders (Self-Regulation for Teens) by Oscar Milano 

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The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, One Small Change at a Time by Alex Korn, PhD

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Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig

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You're Not Alone: The Only Book You'll Need to Overcome Anxiety and Depression by Zachary David Westerbeck

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Recovery From Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency, and Complex PTSD by Linda Hill

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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD

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Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by  Janina Fisher

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Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma by Pete Walker

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It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn 

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Healing Your Wounded Inner Child: A CBT Workbook to Overcome Past Trauma, Face Abandonment, and Regain Emotional Stability by Maria Clarke

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Highly Sensitive: How to Find Inner Peace, Develop Your Gifts, and Thrive by Judy Dyer

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The Invisible Machine:  The Startling Truth About Trauma and the Scientific Breakthrough that Can Transform Your Life by Eugene Lipov, MD, & Jamie Mustard

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Navigating Child Sex Abuse - HTTP://cordiscosaile.com/navigating-child-sex-abuse/

Dr. Jennifer B James: Life Coach- Wholy Mom Coaching, LLC Board Certified Coach/CEO

 Midlothian, VA | (804) 441-1283 | j_barkat@hotmail.com

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Your Life is Not A To Do List: Tools for a More Joyful Entrepreneurial Journey by Dawn Abbott

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Where's My Energy Gone?: A Psychologist's Guide to Understanding Burnout, Ending Stress Cycle and Regaining Your Sense of Control. by Dr. Catherine Sykes

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God's Big Ask: Find the Courage to Say Yes to What Feels Impossible by Carissa Campbell

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Different: The Highly Sensitive Leadership Revolution by Heather Dominick Kosmicki

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Emotionally Intelligent: Life Skill for Every Generation. by Melissa Hall

Healing After Loss: Daily Meditation for Working Through Grief  by Martha Whitmore Hickman

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I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One by Brooke Noel & Pamela D. Blair PhD

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On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

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A Journey Through Grief, Loss, Hope, and Recovery: How Faith Gives You the Freedom to Choose Joy by Deb King

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Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child by Gary Roe

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When Mountains Crumble: Rebuilding Your Life After Losing Someone You Love by Danita Jenae

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Love and Respect Workbook: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs

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Marriage on the Rock: The Comprehensive Guide to a Solid, Healthy, and Lasting Marriage by Jimmy Evans

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Love and Respect in the Family: The Respect Parents Desire, the Love Children Need by Emerson Eggerichs

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Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions: DBT Skills to Help Your Teen Navigate Emotional and Behavioral Challenges by Pat Harvey, ACSW, LCSW-C & Britt H. Rathbone, MSSW, LCSW-C

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Assistance and Coordination for Mother and Mothers-to-be. https://herplan.org

Good Boundaries and GoodByes Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are  by Lysa Terkeurst 

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Sick of Singleness: A Biblical Guide to Breaking Free and Finding Love by Harmony Claire

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Senior Support: https://www.caring.com/resources/help-for-seniors-experiencing-loneliness-and-isolation/ 

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Reclaiming Your Identity in Christ (The Truth Workbook Series) by Ammie Bouwman

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In Christ: A Meditation Devotional in Your New Creation Identity by Clint Byars

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Stomping Out the Darkness Workbook: Discover your true identity in Christ and begin walking in freedom by Dr. Dave Park & Infusion Ministries Team.

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Fundamental of the Faith: 13 Lessons to Grow in the Grace and Knowledge of Jesus Christ by John MacArthur

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My Identity in Christ – An Interactive Bible Study, Journal, and Coloring Book: Learn to Believe and Apply God’s Truth About Myself by Sarah Roberts

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*The following Resources are provided by Journey Church, RVA @ https://www.journeyrva.com 

While there are many resources available on the topic of sexuality and gender, these are the ministries, authors, theologians, scholars, and resources I recommend.
~James Brummett, Pastor at JC, RVA

Resource List Updated: July 9, 2023

Websites:

Association of Certified Biblical Counselors: (ACBC): Resources, training and certification to promote excellence and doctrinal integrity in biblical counseling. 

Harvest USA: Harvest USA brings the truth and mercy of Jesus Christ by helping individuals and families affected by sexual struggles and by providing resources that address biblical sexuality to individuals and churches.

Restored Hope Network: Restored Hope Network is a coalition of ministries serving those who desire to overcome relational and sexual issues in their lives and those impacted by homosexuality.  Restored Hope works alongside the body of Christ, the Church, and to connect those seeking help with local member ministries and other resources that are available, as well as support, equip, and connect the local member ministries.

The International Federation for Therapeutic and Counseling Choice (IFTCC): a multi-disciplinary organization that exists to support dedicated providers of services to individuals seeking change of their unwanted relational and sexual behaviors, attractions, and patterns.

Walt Heyer Ministries: WALT HEYER identified as a transgender woman for 8 years and now has a passion for helping others who regret gender change. Walt travels extensively to share his story of redemption at conferences, churches, and universities.

Sex Change Regret: A website with many resources dedicated to all aspects of transgenderism (for detransitioners and parents, and anyone interested). 

Strength in Weakness: Strength in Weakness Ministries assists Christians in hundreds of churches on every continent in the world. We are teaching evangelists, pastors, church leaders, and pastoral care workers, who through our workshops help Christians to effectively love and counsel other Christians who are same-gender attracted or transgender, and parents, spouses, and siblings dealing with this challenge in their family relationships. We also help reach out to our gay neighbors, friends, and co-workers for Christ.

Out of Egypt Ministries: Out of Egypt Ministries is the speaking ministry of Patti Height and it first began in 2006 as a ministry of Calvary Old Bridge. Today, the ministry has evolved into its own non-profit organization focused on equipping the body of Christ to minister to those who identify as a part of the LGBT community. Our mission is to equip Christians via the local church and other venues to reach out and minister to the LGBT community; as well as those within the church who struggle with unwanted same-sex attraction or gender confusion, with the love and truth of the Gospel.

Transgender to Transformed: The ministry of Laura Perry Smalts, a former transgender whose message of transformation through Jesus Christ to restore her feminine identity can relate to those who struggle, those who have transitioned, parents and loved ones, and those in the church who want to reach them. Trying to live as a man for nearly nine years, she underwent years of cross-sex hormone therapy, two major “gender-affirming” surgeries, and all of the legal changes. She regrets going through it and wants to warn and help others.

In His Image: The documentary In His Image is a critical and urgent message designed to equip the church to answer culturally controversial questions about gender and sexuality from a biblical perspective. Every church in America is filled with hurting people asking these tough questions: Can you be gay and be a Christian? What if someone genuinely feels trapped in the wrong body? Did God make me this way? Is change even possible? This feature-length documentary presents much-needed truth with compassion and clarity through powerful personal testimonies, careful Bible teaching, and scientific evidence. The documentary and bonus videos are available on the In His Image YouTube channel. 

Mama Bear Apologetics: a Christian ministry for mothers (and fathers) to equip parents, and their children, to think critically, love biblically, and stand firm in a culture that is moving in the opposite direction of the historic Christian faith. They describe themselves as “women gathered from diverse backgrounds unified by the common desire to engage in conversations related to the defense of our Christian faith in a way that reflects grace and truth. We desire to show the existence and character of God, not only with our lips but in our lives.”

MAVEN (Ministries): MAVEN is youth-focused. We are passionate about young people. Youth. Students. Junior highers. High schoolers. College students. The next generation. Because of our love for youth, we are also passionate about the people who disciple the next generation. Parents. Grandparents. Pastors. Youth leaders. Organizational leaders. Educators. We want to come alongside them to partner, guide, encourage, teach, train, and equip them to raise up the next generation for the cause of Christ. Culture is speaking to our kids. Ever. Single. Day. Gender identity. Sexual orientation. Pornography. Casual sex. Evolution. Consumerism. Affluence. Substance abuse. Violence. Technology. Social media. Entertainment. Racial tension. Pluralism. Secularism. Atheism. Are they ready for these conversations? Are we? The typical evangelical kid in our typical evangelical church is not. Neither are their parents or leaders. Rather than bemoan the situation and give in to despair, the church needs to redouble its efforts in disciplining the next generation. And we need to do it in culturally-savvy and relevant ways, while never compromising the truth of Christ.

Books:

Start with these*:

*Male & Female He Created Them: An 8 Week Study on Gender & Sexuality, by Denny Burk, David Closson, & Colin Smothers

*Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why it Matters, by Juli Slattery

*Love Thy Body, by Nancy Pearcey

*Five Lies of Our Anti-Christian Age, by Rosaria Butterfield (available September 2023)

*Holy Sexuality and the Gospel: Sex, Desire, and Relationships Shaped by God's Grand Story, by Christopher Yuan

Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters, by Abigail Shrier

Our Bodies Tell God's Story: Discovering the Divine Plan for Love, Sex, and Gender, by Christopher West

For further reading:

What Does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality, Kevin DeYoung

The Bible and Homosexual Practice: Texts and Hermeneutics, by Robert Gagnon

Surviving Religion 101: Letters to a Christian Student on Keeping the Faith in College, Michael J. Kruger

Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality: Empowering Your Kids to Understand and Live Out God’s Design, by Hillary Morgan Ferrer

Openness Unhindered: Further Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert on Sexual Identity and Union with Christ, by Rosaria Butterfield

A Change of Affection: A Gay Man's Incredible Story of Redemption, by Becket Cook

Out of a Far Country: A Gay Son's Journey to God, A Broken Mother's Search for Hope, by Christopher and Angela Yuan

Strange New World: How Thinkers and Activists Redefined Identity and Sparked the Sexual Revolution, by Carl Trueman

The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self: Cultural Amnesia, Expressive Individualism, and the Road to Sexual Revolution, by Carl Trueman

God and the Transgender Debate (Second Edition): What Does the Bible Actually Say About Gender Identity?, by Andrew T. Walker

When Harry Became Sally: Responding to the Transgender Moment, by Ryan T. Anderson

Gender Ideology: What Do Christians Need to Know?Journey Church, RVA @ https://www.journeyrva.com 

Transforming Homosexuality: What the Bible Says about Sexual Orientation and Change, by Denny Burk

Compassion Without Compromise: How the Gospel Frees Us to Love Our Gay Friends Without Losing the Truth, by Adam Bar and Ron Citlau

Chasing Love: Sex, Love, and Relationships in a Confused Culture, by Sean McDowell

The Truth About Sex: What the World Won't Tell You and God Wants You to Know, by Kay Arthur

Can You Be Gay and Christian? Responding with Love & Truth to Questions About Homosexuality, by Michael Brown

Resilient: Standing Firm in a Hostile World, by David Young

Messy Grace: How a Pastor with Gay Parents Learned to Love Others Without Sacrificing Conviction, by Caleb Kaltenbach

Whose Rainbow: God's Gift of Sexuality: A Divine Calling, by Peter Jones

The Other Worldview: Exposing Christianity's Greatest Threat, by Peter Jones

A Little Leaven: Confronting the Ideology of the Revoice Movement, by M.D. Perkins

Love, Sex and Lasting Relationships, Revised and Updated: God's Prescription for Enhancing Your Love Life, by Chip Ingram

Free Video Resources:

YouTube has a number of helpful videos. While there are many who speak on these topics (sexuality and gender), I recommend you search for these speakers, authors, and scholars:

• Rosaria Butterfield
• Christopher Yuan
• Becket Cook
• Walt Heyer (Walt Heyer Ministries, Sex Change Regret)
• Guy Hammond (Strength in Weakness Ministries)
• Patti Height (Out of Egypt Ministries)
• Robert Gagnon
• Nancy Pearcey (specifically the talks she’s given around “Love Thy Body”)
• Andrew T. Walker
• Ryan T. Anderson
• Denny Burk

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